Now that you are engaged, what’s next?

Now that you are engaged, what’s next, you asked?

When you get engaged, time seems to do one of two things: it either stops completely, or it starts moving so quickly that your head is spinning. Mostly, I think the latter is the more common scenario, especially once you’ve said “yes!”

The weight of that word officially starts to sink in. I mean, OMG you have a ring on your finger and a wedding to plan!


But before you launch headfirst into the hundreds of details and decisions, I recommend you take a deep breath and just simply  focus on the five steps that should happen first.


1. Call your family. All of them. Or at least the family members (and friends, too) that, though you may not talk to them on a regular basis, are close to you and have played important roles in your lives and upcoming wedding! Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins…these people love you, are excited for you, and deserve to hear the big news firsthand.

2. Get your ring sized and insured. Making sure your ring is the perfect fit and that it’s protected against loss or damage are top priorities at this point. The last thing you want, now that it’s on your hand and sparkling away, is for something to happen to your engagement ring and to not be able to take care of it.

3. Pick a date. Or even just a general time frame. Do you and “yours to be” prefer a spring, summer, fall or winter wedding?  This will give your family and friends something to work with and hold onto, because of course they’ll all want to know!

4. Set your budget. Before you get too far down the road of daydreaming about your wedding, it’s a great idea to start to wrap both your minds around how much you’re really willing to spend on it. Educate yourself of the cost of a quality wedding.  Whether you’re footing the bill as a couple, or your family is pitching in, knowing where everyone stands when it comes to finances is essential.

5. Make a wedding website!  This way you can start to share information with your friends and families, like telling your engagement story, how you met, or the wedding details as they unfold. This is a great way to not only give others some insight into your relationship, but to pass along specific plans as you pin them into place.

These five steps will be a good start in planning your wedding while you find it difficult to focus on anything because of the excitement.

I hope you find this information as well as my other tip to help make your wedding day spectacular.


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John has been photographing weddings for over 20 years. His style is that of a photojournalist, which is a candid, spontaneous and unobtrusive approach. "This is the best way to achieve natural images, by capturing the unexpected fleeting moments that cannot be planned and will disappear in a heartbeat. It is a joy to preserve such monumental moments in a couple’s life while maintaining a low profile. " Because of this approach, John's photographs, more than any other style, become cherished memories. Balanced with his commercial work, John limits the number of weddings each year. This allows him to give greater attention to each wedding, resulting in a more efficient and enjoyable day and higher quality memories. John consults and works with each couple beforehand, getting to know them personally, so he can understand their vision before their big day. "This pre-planning tunes me into every client’s personality, the extra effort alway show in the work." Most clients prefer a combination of candid and posed images, and in both you will enjoy dynamic and unique images that capture the spirit and joy of the most important day of your life.